Take Love Back.
Everyone wants to love, to be in love, to have love, to know love, etc. and so forth. I’m only writing because as luck would have it, I happen to be one of those people as well. We’re not a dying breed you know, you’re not alone. But I want to clarify, because I catch myself doing it from time to time and then quickly realizing the truth behind what it is I’m actually doing; I’m talking about fantasizing.
We can look at pictures of celebs or see them in movies and think, “ugh, I would marry her (or him lady readers) in an instant.” First off, I think you’re referring to the character they are playing so let’s rule that out. We see movies where it’s a ‘beautiful’ story and we are so inspired to “love” and say things like “that’s the kind of love I want to experience.” I don’t blame you, they do a good job at making it look sweet and sultry with a little “that was so easy” mixed in for good measure. It goes on, it really does, the point is LOVE ISN’T LIKE THAT and if you’re looking for it I think you’re setting yourself up for failure.
I write about the L word quite often, and I think it’s mostly because I’m so concerned with what has happened to marriage and how much younger kids are having sex. Love is a lot like grace today in our culture, it’s all about me! Which is a lie, bum out right? Well get over it, because it’s a lie. I don’t mind raining on the parade, perhaps if I rain a bit I can wash away some of the bullshit that you seemed to have been viewing for so long now. Love is just being used over and over, thrown about as if it’s some accurate lasso for us to round up a “good one.” Love isn’t lust, love isn’t just a word, love isn’t just a feeling, and if we could just expose the truth then I believe so much good could be done.
I just finished watching Blue Valentine and it rocked me, it reminded of me of the reality of marriage anymore. I’ve seen more marriages than I can count on both hands fall a part before me that never made it to the 3 year mark just within the last few months. You shouldn’t be surprised either, this is what happens when you mix the world in with something divine. I’m not saying every marriage is going to fail, I don’t think we’ve reached that point yet, but people have become so entitled and selfish that marriage has just become more of a long-term relationship that might end up lasting forever. This saddens me, this is what our children are seeing and growing up around, they’re being bombarded with images of “love” when it has nothing to do with it most of the time.
And men, oh men are a dying breed, just because you’re 25 doesn’t make you a man, you’re just a boy that can grow a beard. We need husbands, and fathers, that value the people around him and aren’t afraid to show it! We need wives and mothers that have courage and strength but are tender and not afraid to be vulnerable. We need to take back love, and show it to the world for what it truly is. Jesus Christ showed us what it means to truly love, and I believe there is hope in his message that anyone can benefit from. The less this life becomes all about you, the more you will begin to truly enjoy it. Don’t wish for the love you see up on the screen, because I assure you, looks can be deceiving. The portrait of love, is found in Jesus Christ.
