Tortuous Soul, You’ll Find Yourself Alone.
I’ve seen and heard of enough parental trauma caused to have become utterly disgusted with it. Some of the things these “parents” say to cover up their own insecurities, selfish motives, and downright sadistic ways aren’t even shocking to me anymore but they most certainly are frustrating. The more I’ve read up on parenting in the Bible, a couple of passages stick out and those are Ephesian 6:4 and Colossians 3:21 to which do not evade to strong arming, taunting, or belittling your children.
There’s no fine line between discipline and oppression! To “provoke … to anger” suggests a repeated, ongoing pattern of treatment that gradually builds up a deep–seated anger and resentment that boils over in outward hostility.
A parent can as easily overpower a child with words as with physical force. Putting him down with superior arguments or sarcasm can inflict serious harm, and provokes him to anger and resentment. It is amazing that we sometimes say things to our children that we would not think of saying to anyone else—for fear of ruining our reputation!
In a lot of cases more than anything, the nature of the parents isn’t subconscious and if anything seems as though they get pleasure out of watching their kids “squirm.” I think the most frustrating of all is to witness people that are adults, being made to feel childish and confined by having parents take what you and I might consider to be mundane things away. Can’t work, can’t drive, can’t control your own income, can’t fill out paperwork on your own, can’t travel at your leisure, and it goes on and on.
The last thing that I’ll say is this, the majority of this is clear and obvious pride and power. It’s all about you, it’s all about you wanting and having control, and it has NOTHING to do with the well being of your children. As parents you should cultivate, love, nurture, give respect, affirm, and all this within the bounds of discipline. If you’re oppressing your children, for so many reasons I believe you need to see the error of your ways and my warning is simple, if you don’t you will most surely find yourself alone quickly with no one there to care when you pass on from this life; and in my opinion, you’d have earned it.
